Before I start this new article, I’d like to say thanks to everyone who reached out to me after I shared my last article, and to tell you how humbled I am.
I had no idea that sharing my article would impact so many people. My LinkedIn and WhatsApp inboxes were cluttered with messages from people from all over the world, thanking me for sharing my story.
You can read my article about mental health here and how I found out I was suffering from depression here
But what next?
The reaction I got from my article got me thinking:
when was the last time you procrastinated or avoided making a hard decision?
In my last article, I spoke about discovering I suffered from depression – which is all fine when we are self-aware about a particular issue we undergo (see box for a reminder of what happened to me in 2019) – but what happens next?
In Brazilian Portuguese, we have an expression called ‘empurrar com a barriga’, which in literal terms means to push something with your belly.
In simple terms, it means to procrastinate.
You see: becoming aware of a particular challenge that is bugging you is very important, but things won’t change much if you don’t take action.
In fact, nothing will change. Personally I (still) get frustrated when I see some folks expecting others to decide for them.
Nothing comes your way for free.
The beautiful and challenging thing about becoming part of the adult world is: no-one will tell you what to do, and no decisions will be made for you.
Action is everything
You may work consciously or subconsciously to have someone decide your destiny for you, but I don’t think that is sustainable.
There’s no doubt that 2019 has been a transformational and turbulent year for me – let’s face it, I could have spent it beating around the bush.
But that would have made the price of not taking any decision (which is a decision by the way) much higher for me.
For 2020, I hope you too can take the necessary action for whatever you’ve set as a priority in your life.
Hard decisions in 2019:
• Left Denmark and admitted to myself I had a problem I had to look carefully at
• Visited Psychiatrist number 1, but was not too fond of his style
• Visited Psychiatrist number 2, whom I liked
• Got referred to go to a psychologist and began cognitive therapy.
• Returned to Denmark
• Left (2nd) startup I co-created, left partner and finished a contract with 2 major clients
• Agreed with the ex-wife that we should divorce — the hardest and most complex decision of my life to this day
Published By Carlos monteiro
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This post first appeared on the Copenhagen Post where I have a column called Give Yourself a Chance