Before I start this new article, I’d like to say thanks to everyone who reached out to me after I shared my last article, and to tell you how humbled I am.

I had no idea that sharing my article would impact so many people. My LinkedIn and WhatsApp inboxes were cluttered with messages from people from all over the world, thanking me for sharing my story.

Thank you!

You can read my article about mental health here and how I found out I was suffering from depression here

But what next?

The reaction I got from my article got me thinking:

when was the last time you procrastinated or avoided making a hard decision?

In my last article, I spoke about discovering I suffered from depression – which is all fine when we are self-aware about a particular issue we undergo (see box for a reminder of what happened to me in 2019) – but what happens next?

Belly up

In Brazilian Portuguese, we have an expression called ‘empurrar com a barriga’, which in literal terms means to push something with your belly.

In simple terms, it means to procrastinate.

You see: becoming aware of a particular challenge that is bugging you is very important, but things won’t change much if you don’t take action.

In fact, nothing will change. Personally I (still) get frustrated when I see some folks expecting others to decide for them.

Nothing comes your way for free.

The beautiful and challenging thing about becoming part of the adult world is: no-one will tell you what to do, and no decisions will be made for you.

Action is everything

You may work consciously or subconsciously to have someone decide your destiny for you, but I don’t think that is sustainable.

There’s no doubt that 2019 has been a transformational and turbulent year for me – let’s face it, I could have spent it beating around the bush.

But that would have made the price of not taking any decision (which is a decision by the way) much higher for me.

For 2020, I hope you too can take the necessary action for whatever you’ve set as a priority in your life.

Hard decisions in 2019:

• Left Denmark and admitted to myself I had a problem I had to look carefully at

• Visited Psychiatrist number 1, but was not too fond of his style

• Visited Psychiatrist number 2, whom I liked

• Got referred to go to a psychologist and began cognitive therapy.

• Returned to Denmark

• Left (2nd) startup I co-created, left partner and finished a contract with 2 major clients

• Agreed with the ex-wife that we should divorce — the hardest and most complex decision of my life to this day

Published By Carlos monteiro

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This post first appeared on the Copenhagen Post where I have a column called Give Yourself a Chance

Yesterday, 2nd of November of 2018 I was invited to speak for a class of international students in Copenhagen, at the Copenhagen Business College.

These students came from Nepal, India, and Bangladesh

When I asked the teacher/tutor who contacted me for more more information and to brief me a bit about their background, she shared that most of them were enrolled in a programme that serves as a pre-masters degree or as most formally known as Graduate Certificate of International Business.

Speaking to students from such different nationalities and backgrounds was a blessing. These folks are fighters, that decided to come all the way from their countries not only to experience a very different culture as well as to sharpen their skills.

About my speech.

The name of the teacher who found me is Nuria Lopez. She is a very sympathetic woman, formerly from Spain who lived for over 15 years in the U.K with her husband and children, who were born in the U.K. Over the past four years she’d been residing in Denmark.

Nuria found me through an article I wrote for the Copenhagen Post, an English publication mostly directed at foreigners based in Denmark.

In the article I rant about the need for getting practical rather than waiting for the perfect opportunity to start executing something. Anyway, back to my speech yesterday.

The speech was about my journey to Denmark and how Biassa was born, I covered the following points:

  • Marrying A Dane in Brazil
  • What I’ve learned as an Intern at the Danish Consulate and Siemens
  • Why I built Denmark
  • How I landed my first customer because of content ( and Linkedin)
  • Why it is more important to do things rather than wait for the “perfect opportunity.”
  • The importance of generating content in our day and age
  • How being rejected over three hundred times via email as a job seeker fired me up and helped me learn how to use Linkedin more adequately

So after framing my ” big picture”  we started our chat.

I was impressed that they had already read my blog posts and had prepared a list with over 30 questions about entrepreneurship, life in Denmark, work-life balance, dealing with rejection, how to start a business, social media, etc.

I was humbled and genuinely thankful to Nuria to be able to share a bit of my journey with them. Unfortunately, I had not much time after the presentation to sit down with each one of them and learn about their adventures as well.

The respect and curiosity that they have shown towards my history are genuinely humbling.

If I could share one main take away to anyone who’s reading this text I’d say:

Get rid of the negative people in your life. They will take you to some dark places. When living in a foreign country, you will more than ever to be strong and to look for positive vibes. It is quite common to fall on the trap of finding someone from the same country where you come from, then start whining about why you are where you are and how better your country of origin is. Avoid this at any cost. Look for the doers, for the positive ones and for those who are going to lift you up.

You will be doing a huge favor to yourself.