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Before I start this new article, I’d like to say thanks to everyone who reached out to me after I shared my last article, and to tell you how humbled I am.

I had no idea that sharing my article would impact so many people. My LinkedIn and WhatsApp inboxes were cluttered with messages from people from all over the world, thanking me for sharing my story.

Thank you!

You can read my article about mental health here and how I found out I was suffering from depression here

But what next?

The reaction I got from my article got me thinking:

when was the last time you procrastinated or avoided making a hard decision?

In my last article, I spoke about discovering I suffered from depression – which is all fine when we are self-aware about a particular issue we undergo (see box for a reminder of what happened to me in 2019) – but what happens next?

Belly up

In Brazilian Portuguese, we have an expression called ‘empurrar com a barriga’, which in literal terms means to push something with your belly.

In simple terms, it means to procrastinate.

You see: becoming aware of a particular challenge that is bugging you is very important, but things won’t change much if you don’t take action.

In fact, nothing will change. Personally I (still) get frustrated when I see some folks expecting others to decide for them.

Nothing comes your way for free.

The beautiful and challenging thing about becoming part of the adult world is: no-one will tell you what to do, and no decisions will be made for you.

Action is everything

You may work consciously or subconsciously to have someone decide your destiny for you, but I don’t think that is sustainable.

There’s no doubt that 2019 has been a transformational and turbulent year for me – let’s face it, I could have spent it beating around the bush.

But that would have made the price of not taking any decision (which is a decision by the way) much higher for me.

For 2020, I hope you too can take the necessary action for whatever you’ve set as a priority in your life.

Hard decisions in 2019:

• Left Denmark and admitted to myself I had a problem I had to look carefully at

• Visited Psychiatrist number 1, but was not too fond of his style

• Visited Psychiatrist number 2, whom I liked

• Got referred to go to a psychologist and began cognitive therapy.

• Returned to Denmark

• Left (2nd) startup I co-created, left partner and finished a contract with 2 major clients

• Agreed with the ex-wife that we should divorce — the hardest and most complex decision of my life to this day

Published By Carlos monteiro

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This post first appeared on the Copenhagen Post where I have a column called Give Yourself a Chance

“Through my network and knowledge I will connect, develop & drive high impact companies to contribute to and enable economic development in Brazil.” 

 

Finding Meaning

Recently, during a dinner with my wife,we were talking about the process of finding our true purpose in our work life.

When talking to people, and digging a little deeper than the usual small talk, I have noticed that many have no idea about their purpose in life.

Clarity

The upside of investing time in finding purpose in your life is having clarity about your goals and values. The actions you take on a daily basis start making a lot more sense.

I believe that people with a strong sense of purpose, will thrive, simply because they have a north that won’t easily change due to external factors, i.e: Contrary opinion of friends, family pressure, etc.

Know yourself

Asking myself (and friends) where they’d notice me making a difference and finding out what my real talents are, have been crucial to define my work and life purpose.

Actions to take you even further

Tony Robbins says that whenever you take an action you create an emotion. In this sense, when you don’t take actions, you will lack progress and lack of progress diminish your emotions and ultimately you will end up having a dull and meaningless life.

Finding answers

Finding your mission, purpose and values isn’t an easy task and nobody, except yourself, can help you in doing so. The best way to get started is by giving yourself a small goal, i.e: asking yourself what are your core values and listing them. That is an action.

So, what kind of action are you taking today, that will enable you to build a better tomorrow for yourself and the society you live in?